Tuesday, May 11, 2010

His Blessing for My Journey

In a post the other day, I mentioned a book that I'm currently reading entitled "Birthing From Within" that is based on a method of childbirth classes focusing on natural birth that is directed by the mother and geared toward self-awareness.

In the introduction the authors lay out some of their philosophies and assumptions and give some examples from the classes they teach. One of the main philosophies is that birth is a monumental rite of passage for a woman and not a medical event (even when medical care is necessary).

With this in mind, one thing she has her clients do during the classes is that secretly, she instructs the husbands to bring a wash basin, massage oil and flowers to the last class to give their wives a foot massage and to give them an opportunity to practice some of the relaxation techniques that they have learned.

And also, in keeping with her belief that birth is a rite of passage for the mother, she asks the fathers to bring with them a short blessing, prayer, or poem, ... something to give to their wives as a word of encouragement for her journey through this rite of passage.

For some reason, I thought it would be useful to tell the Fabulous Dude about this activity at dinner one night last week. Please do not ask me why I thought I should tell him. Perhaps it was my subconscious way of pleading with him to think of some super duper sweet romantic things to say to me about this pregnancy instead of things like "you're looking rather chubby today". I should have known better - because we all know that my husband is the king of all sarcasm and insensitivity.

So this is how our conversation went down:

Lucy: "So, I read about an activity that is done at some childbirth classes where the instructor asks the fathers to bring a wash basin, massage oils, and flowers to give their wives a foot rub. And she also asks them to write down some kind of blessing, prayer, or poem to give to them for their journey through pregnancy and childbirth".

Fabulous Dude: "Wait, so is this from that book you are reading or something that they are going to do at the classes we are taking?"

Lucy: "From the book. I don't know if they do something like this at the classes we are taking. Why? Do you have something stupid to say about it and you don't want to say it if it's something we're going to have to do?"

Fabulous Dude: " No, no, not at all. I was just thinking that I already know exactly what I would want to write for my blessing to you."

Lucy (as my hope for some type of uncharacteristic romanticism is mounting): " Oh yea, and what is that?"

Fabulous Dude (.... smirking ....): "GET 'ER DONE"

Why is he so sweet?!

16 comments:

Melissa said...

hahahaha!! D would say the same thing. Those sweet boys.

Heather said...

Yikes. Why do men think those three (or should I say two and a half?) words are so dang funny? Glad you could laugh about it, though. :)

Brooke said...

you might be married to a redneck too...although i was unaware that the grew them up there. i suppose if ohio can grow one so can canada.

Land of Blissful Chaos said...

Oh my. Here is a little insider secret: E will be in so much awe of you and the fact that his child is coming, that he'll be sickeningly sweet. I'll never forget how J was after each of our boys were born. It is one of those times that you go to a next level of love.

Kayla said...

haha, o gosh.... My husband is also a very sarcastic man... Sometimes I have no idea if he even thinks before he talks! :-)

Tricia said...

Oh that boy! I really do think sometimes that he and Jason share D.N.A. somewhere down the line. ;)

XO*T

Jackie said...

Boys will boys...

Brittany Ann said...

Again...I think we married the same guy.

Sigh.

Way to get our hopes up and then send them smashing them down, hubs!

Mine would do the same thing!

Jessica said...

Don't ya just wanna smack him! My husband is the same way. Just when I think he's gonna be all mushy romantic and sweet he cracks a joke! Men!

Lois Lane II said...

HAHAHA!!! Very nice!!!

d.a.r. said...

This is so something Z would say. And then he would make some "that's what she said" joke. Oh boy...

Miss Anne said...

......wowsa.

well

perhaps he'll suprise you come "showtime"...

i bet he'll have something profound to say.

(i hope so, for your sake)

you're a strong and adorable woman

keep up the amazing work mama!

This Texas Momma said...

Oh my my my. I am shaking my head right now. I......just.....don't.....know what to say.

SnoWhite {Finding Joy in My Kitchen} said...

our boys would be friends.

Shaina said...

Heheehehe. Give Evan my love.

Taryn said...

You are one lucky duck. Can we come see you this summer? Before you "get 'er done?"