I've written before about how it irks me when strangers comment on the relationship between our age and marital status. Recently, I've had another experience and I thought I would share. I mentioned in a post last week that we attempted to head to the states to shop but the border wait was too long. Let me recap on the conversation between the border patrol officer and my husband as we re-entered Canada.
Customs officer (CO) takes our passports and looks at them.
CO: "Where you from?"
FD: "[Our town]".
CO: "How long have you been out of the country?
FD: "Actually we haven't. We were just going across to shop but we saw the line and bailed."
CO: Nods head. "You two are married?"
FD: "Yes, we are."
CO: "You're frickin' young, dude."
FD: "Yup. We've been married for three years."
CO: "How did you manage that?"
FD: "Found the right girl, had to keep her."
CO: "Thatta boy."
We drive away. I'm shaking my head. FD says, "I should have told him I knocked you up and your dad threatened to shoot me if I didn't marry you".
Is it just me or is this completely inappropriate? Seriously. I get it that we seem too young to be married and that we are not necessarily the norm in our society. But, if you met a couple who were getting married for the first time much later in life, would it be okay to say "WOW! You're really old to be getting married." I didn't think so. Why, then, is it okay to make those comments to us?
Am I completely off base here or do any of you other "young marrieds" have these feelings?