When the fabulous dude and I were planning for our marriage, we were blessed to receive pre-marital counseling from two couples who were both very influential in our teenage years and who had been strong models of Christian marriage to us as we had grown up. During one of our sessions with one of the couples it was suggested that we withhold on having a television in our bedroom for at least the first year of our marriage.
The couple explained to us that they felt it was important to reserve the bedroom as a place of intimacy, especially in the early years of marriage. Without having a TV in the bedroom, a couple is able to spend time in conversation before going to sleep at night. This way, the bedroom is a place of refuge, a place that belongs only to you and your spouse and is free from distractions.
Growing up, my parents had a TV in their room and FD's parents did not. Neither of us felt like it was a big deal either way but we thought the advice made sense. Plus, we only had one TV (and actually, for the first 2-3 months not even that) so it made sense to put it in the living room and not the bedroom.
Now, after 2.835 years of marriage, we still have just one TV and is is located in the living room. We don't watch much TV anyway. We don't have cable and so we get about five stations on a good day. We have grown accustomed to not having a TV in our room, so it doesn't usually feel like anything is missing.
However, there have been many times when one of us has said, "I wish so badly that we had a TV in our bedroom right now". On nights when one of us is tired and ready for bed and the other is not we sometimes think it would be nice to still be close to each other but one person could go to sleep and the other could watch TV or a movie. Or sometimes, it would just be nice to snuggle up and be comfy in our bed while watching a movie. Occasionally, we have done this by setting up the laptop on my dresser so we can watch a movie in bed (usually this happens when I'm ready to fall asleep and he's not tired yet). However, recently the laptop has been acting up and we can't move it around a lot or else the power cord doesn't reconnect when I plug it in. So, we haven't had the chance to watch movies in our room in quite a while.
Despite the times that we have said it would be so nice and convenient to have a TV in our room, I think, overall, I am glad that we don't. It is nice to have the bedroom as a quiet place that is not full of distractions. Also, I don't think I would like it if we ended up falling asleep while watching TV every night.
So, I am wondering if anyone else has an opinion about this? For those of you who are married, do you have a TV in your room? Why or why not? Is this something you made an active decision about? Did your parents have a TV in their room when you were growing up? Did this impact your choice? I'm curious to see if this is something that is a debate for others or just us.