The Summer of '04
After leaving GL, we all said our goodbyes and left for the summer, this time knowing we wouldn't be coming back in September. I moved back home, returned to my summer waitressing job and began to think about all the stuff the FD had said to me over the past few weeks. As I mentioned, I was currently in a fairly serious relationship, that FD clearly did not think was right for me. He pointed out a number of reasons why he didn't think the relationship could last and, try as I might, I could not disagree with him.
So, summer began, I was at home and FD left to spend six weeks at camp. Without really knowing what was to come of the FD and myself, I made a very difficult decision and I broke things off with the boyfriend. It was one of the hardest things I had ever done because he was kind and sweet and, well, perfect. Just not perfect for me. He was a great guy but my heart was no longer fully committed to the relationship. Many people thought he and I were meant to be and could not understand why I was making this choice but I knew he was not meant to be my future husband and so the answer was clear to me. In the weeks following the break up, I was often asked if I broke up with him for the fabulous dude. I told them no and I still believe that this was an honest answer. Although the FD played a role, I believe the relationship would have ended regardless.
I spent the next six weeks wrestling. I wrestled with feelings of loneliness. I was away from my friends. After spending four years at boarding school, I had lost touch with most of my friends from town. I struggled with confusion over the next step in life. I was lined up to start university in the fall at the same school my brother and sister attended and the same school that the ex-boyfriend would also be attending. It was the only university I had applied to because I thought I knew exactly where I was heading and I was starting to doubt that decision. I wrestled with God. I prayed hard, I immersed myself in the Word and I was searching for answers. Looking back, I now realize I was closer to God at that point than I ever had been, or have been to this point.
Over that summer, I became closer to my parents than ever before. Along with waitressing, I also worked for my parents so I spent a lot of time with them, especially my mom. It was just the three of us at home and they knew I was struggling. At first they were upset with me about my decisions but they quickly realized that it was for the best. We tackled these issues together and decided that I would, in fact, enroll in university in the fall and if after a semester I wasn't happy with the decision, I would come home and re-evaluate my goals.
For the six week period that the FD was working at camp, I had no idea what would happen when he returned. I wrote him letters almost every day, sent him two care packages and even sent him a raspberry pie (his favourite) when my mom went to camp as a volunteer for a week. When my mom came home the first thing I asked her was if he sent anything for me. He hadn't. Over the whole summer I only got one letter from him. There where days when this really bothered me and then other days when I didn't care. I tried not to think much of it because I knew how busy camp was and I knew that he wasn't exactly the type to sit down and write letters (Remember when I mentioned that I did his homework and typed his reports in high school?).
When I finally received a letter from him, it was short and mostly consisted of small talk. But the last line read "I think of you often". I pondered the meaning of these words for days and days. I was certain that he wouldn't carelessly write that. He was a sensitive and thoughtful young man. I was sure it meant something for him to say that he thought of me often. This one simple line helped me to feel secure that it wasn't a big deal to not be getting letters upon letters upon letters from him. Looking back, I think I knew there was no need to be insecure because I trusted God had a plan and I would be content whether or not it involved the FD. And then, one Saturday, when I got home from work, mom told me he had called on his day off. I knew that the phone call meant he was missing me too.
So, I continued to wrestle.
August arrived and I knew that camp would soon be over, but I wasn't exactly sure when. I was surprised when I got a phone call early one Saturday morning from the FD. The conversation was fairly quick but went something like this, "I'm home from camp and my parents are on vacation. Can I come visit you?"
I said yes.
To be continued...
**Sorry about the lack of photos in this post but there are really none to share.
The Real Life Romance series is being linked up at MM&Ms at Musings of a Future Pastor's Wife
14 comments:
Isn't it amazing to look back and see how God was at work during a time that was so challenging? thanks for sharing.
I think as girls we tend to read into and ponder things guys say or write... I know I did that with some of Frog Prince's letters :) We are kindred spirits, my friend.
Love this part of the story! So glad you sought God during that time- just look at the results it had!!
..still waiting for the section that answers my question. ;)
This is so weird. After Chris and I met he broke up with his pretty serious girlfriend. Not because of me- but because he met me and knew he could do better. Does that make sense? It seems very similar to what you did. Lucy Marie- I can't wait to hear the rest of your story!
Awwww....so sweet! :)
oh I love these stories! I love that you trusted God to completely write your story!!
p.s. I fixed the button but the text link looks cute!
Oh I cannot wait for the rest!!
I have got a lot of catching up to do!!! I will check out your first few parts so I can be up to speed on this great romance! I miss reading your blog and knowing what is going on...we are on our 5th set of company this summer so I have been behind on blogging...please know I am thinking about you my friend!
Oh my gosh, way to leave us hanging!!! :)
Since I know you post on Wednesdays, I have to force myself not to come over here and read early. :)
WOw - what an awesome story! I am so looking forward to reading more!!!!
i can't wait to read more...and its truly awesome to look back at how God has worked in our lives.
Great story! And I love hearing about women that were listening to God in their teens....I was not.
looking forward to the rest!
I love that you were able to rest securely in the knowledge that God had a plan for you. So often we fight and struggle as if worried that God will forget us or mess us up somehow! What a lot of needless worry we could save if we just rested in Him.
You're seriously going to leave us hanging right there?! I completely understand how you would ponder his words for days ~ I do that type of thing, too! I love to see how God was working in your life during that time!
Perspective is an amazing thing, isnt it? Your story is so perfectly written that I can absolutely imagine how you felt on those days. I was so immersed for these few minutes that it actually took me a couple of minutes to realize that Karlee was pulling on my pant leg. I guess that's good writing. ;)
XOXO
*Tricia
(I guess the benefit to catching up is that I get to jump straight to part 5) ;)
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