Lately I've gotten myself into the habit of reading a lot of Newlywed blogs. These are blogs written by young girls, like myself, who are beginning their marriage journey. They write about lessons they're learning, funny things that have happened and sometimes struggles they are facing. I have a blast reading about them, learning from them and laughing with them. And all this reading has got me to thinking .... am I an Oldlywed?
We are quickly approaching our 3rd anniversary. I know for those of you who have been married, 10, 15, 20+ years, this doesn't seem like a long time. But, it does seem that it's been a long time since we were first married.
On the other hand though, some days I still feel like we're newly married. We are still learning about each other, how to live together, how to communicate effectively, how to argue sensibly. Every day there is a new lesson. I have a feeling this part never ends...
So, when exactly does a couple move from the "newlywed" category to the "oldlywed" category? Is it after you've spent a year married and have weathered all four seasons together? After you've celebrated your first Christmas together? After you've purchased your first home? Had kids? Had your first big "marriage" fight? Is it when signing your "new name" begins to come naturally? Is it when saying "This is my husband" no longer sounds funny coming from your lips? I'm not sure. Something tells me that there's no indication of when this transition happens. Maybe it's already happened for us, but it doesn't feel like it to me.
.....somebody please tell me I'm still a newlywed!